I met Fr. Larry Richards once when he came to Ottawa for a Men’s Conference.  He is a naturally charismatic and likable person.  He has helped, and continues to help I’m sure, many, many persons.  Over the years I have heard some things he has taught that I do not agree with, namely, his position on some objectively sinful behaviour between married persons that he has claimed is not necessarily sinful, and also his ‘pastoral’ approach to Catholics attending attempted weddings that we know are not going to be valid.  He also has given what I would consider bad advice to those who want to take a serious look at family of origin issues.  But overall, he is a very good priest.  Lately he has received some very public criticism for some things he has said, and it is becoming very messy.  In an attempt to help some persons, maybe even Fr. Larry himself, I decided to weigh in with my two cents worth in the comments section of a LifeSiteNews article.  After posting a very long comment, I had second thoughts and greatly edited my comment to replace the original.  Since then, some fellow commentators have replied to me and it looks like the comments on the article might be turning from anger into compassion.  I hope my posts helped in that regard.  You can follow the link to see the article and all the comments if you wish.  I will now post my original comment before I edited it.

Below is the original comment that I wrote in the comments section but is no longer there, and here is the link to the articleLife Site News article

 

The modern Church family has become highly dysfunctional. There is healing for members of dysfunctional families, but only for those willing to intentionally break the three unspoken but very rigid rules that keep the cycle continuing on the downward spiral, namely 1) To repress and suppress personal feelings, 2) To not trust yourself and to not trust others, and 3) To not talk about the real problem(s); the proverbial elephant(s) in the room.

I do not know anything about what types of help Fr. Richards has sought for himself, and for all we know he is seeking help for himself presently, but I have heard him flippantly dismiss and ridicule persons who sincerely seek healing for themselves due to family of origin issues. I recall him saying something like, ‘Get over it, your parents weren’t perfect and neither are you.’ Those are the types of things that I have heard others who grew up in an alcoholic home say when they don’t think they personally need any help, but would actually greatly benefit from a recovery program or therapy or 12 Step groups. It’s almost as if they are afraid, but that fear makes them put on a bold front. I empathize with Fr. Richards. He has openly spoken about his father’s alcoholism and his breakthrough forgiveness or final expression of love at his father’s deathbed, and I suppose the advice he has given to others to ‘just get over it’ is probably the advice that he has given himself. And this bad advice might be catching up with him.

An addict is often trapped in denial. An addict often cannot seem to see that he or she has a problem with dependency on his or her preferred substance. Persons who are also trapped in denial are those closely associated with an addict. Some of these persons sometimes are also addicts of one form or another, but they all become codependent to varying degrees, and this to their own detriment.

Addiction is often understood as a disease, and I agree. Codependent persons also suffer from a disease, and this we call codependency. The type of denial that codependent persons have is much more difficult to overcome than that of an addict, because the codependent person usually becomes very good at controlling things. Until they can’t. And then things like we see in the video within the above article start happening. Just for the fun of it, why not search for Adult Children of Alcoholic Syndrome and see if things start making a bit of sense. And then let each of us consider the log or the plank in our own eye.

The disease of addiction and the disease of codependency is actually deadly, but thanks be to God, it is treatable. But more often than not, most will never accept the help to become free. Confrontation is not usually well received from the inflicted person, but rather defiant denial and angry accusations are directed to those trying to help.

I think that many of the major present day problems in the Church can be understood as untreated addictions and untreated codependency. Consider the don’t feel, don’t trust, and don’t talk rules in respect to these Church problems: the same-s/x scandals and cover-ups, priests and bishops not preaching and teaching the entire Gospel, a climate of fear at all levels, and the inability to deal with the obvious unpredictability, inconsistencies, and contradictions from Francis and various cardinals, bishops, and priests. Then consider all the in-fighting and cruel ad hominem insults hurled between otherwise good Catholics. The reality is that every person is hurting deeply, including those persons who are inflicting great suffering on others.

To really find healing and freedom, I suggest we begin by taking Our Lord’s words seriously: “The truth will set you free.” Theological truth? Sure, but also the truth that is right in front of us that anyone with eyes to see can see. Acknowledge the problems. Do not deny them. Then, with love for all as the motive, intentionally break the dysfunctional rules.

Breaking the rules will have both negative and positive consequences. The negative consequences mostly involve being on the receiving end of the anger and resentment of whoever remains in denial. The positive consequences include finding a new freedom that those trapped in addictions and codependency could never otherwise imagine! But that freedom, for whoever might be actually still reading this post, is a real fruit of the Resurrection. Do you want a tangible religious experience of Jesus setting the captives free in this life? Do not be afraid to learn about addictions and codependency, and, if by the grace of God, you can identify with what you learn, then don’t be afraid to get the help that is available to anyone who looks for it. The result will be the gift that Jesus promised, and that is, a peace that the world cannot give! In Viam Pacis.

With Holy Week and then the Triduum and a few other things, I have not updated the Mass intentions for a while, so here I will list in reverse order Masses looking ahead to May 11th, and going back to April 15th.

May 11th: for Edward and family, by his brother Terry

May 10th: for the supporters of In Viam Pacis

May 9th: for the intentions of Rebecca and her fiance Peter, by Rebecca’s parents

May 8th: for Iva and family, by his brother Terry

May 7th: for the soul of Jack, by Chris

May 6th: for the soul of Gerry, by Rita H.

May 5th: for the benefit and intentions of Lisa, by her husband Vince

May 4th: for the souls of Terry’s grand parents

May 3rd: for the soul of Jack, by Chris

May 2nd: for the benefit and intentions of Lorie and Richard, by Suzanne

May 1st: for the soul of Gerry, by Rita H.

April 30th: for the souls of Olga and Ted, by their son Terry

April 29th: for the supporters of In Viam Pacis

April 27th: For the benefit and intentions of Bev P. by Suzanne

April 26th: for the soul of Jack, by Chris

April 25th: for the souls of Sylvio and Gerarda, by their daughter Gabrielle

April 24th: for the repose of the soul of Desmond, by Suzanne

April 23rd: for the soul of Gerry, by Rita H.

April 22nd: for Gabrielle’s cousins

April 17th: for Joe and family, by Terry and Gabrielle

April 16th, for the benefit and intentions my sister

April 15th: for the soul of Gerry, by Rita H.

 

This coming Sunday is Passion Sunday (because we read the Passion of Jesus) and is also known as Palm Sunday.  It is the beginning of Holy Week, the holiest religious week in the Christian calendar.

Let us enter into this week with truly reflective hearts.  If at all possible, let us put aside meaningless entertainment in favour of prayer.

This year, the thought occurs to me more than ever that the Head and the Body are not separated.  Jesus suffers with you and you suffer with Jesus, or at least Jesus invites you to be aware of this reality and He invites you to consciously suffer with Him.  The type of suffering that we ought to ponder is the suffering of the Blessed Virgin Mary, who stayed close to Jesus, and suffered as only a mother could suffer when she sees her son suffer.

The Church is suffering.  Big time.  Has for a while.  We might ponder that the Head is suffering because the Body is suffering.  We might ponder that Jesus is suffering with us, and that we are suffering with Him.  This is a great mystery.

Whatever your particular sufferings are, Jesus is there suffering with you.  This week especially, let us enter into the suffering of Christ.  Maybe it will seem like a long week.  Maybe we are afraid of that.  Be not afraid.  If we suffer with Him we will rejoice with Him!  Courage!  Be not afraid!  Forward!  March!  Let us also go up to Jerusalem!

 

Monday April 8th: For Christel, by Terry and Gabrielle

Tuesday April 9th: For the soul of Gerry C., by Rita H.

Wednesday April 10th: For the soul of Diane G., sister of Ellie, by Suzanne A.

Thursday April 11th: For Terry’s aunts and uncles and families

Friday April 12th: For the soul of Gerry C., by Rita H.

Saturday April 13th: For the soul of Jack M., by Chris F.

 

Can you kindly support the ministry of In Viam Pacis for $10 a month or more?




 

Monday April 1st: For Andre, by Terry and Gabrielle

Tuesday April 2nd: For the soul of Mac S., by Gert S.

Wednesday April 3rd: For the soul of Gerry C., by Rita H.

Thursday April 4th: For the soul of Bill L., by Kim J.

Friday April 5th: For Elsa, by Terry and Gabrielle

Saturday April 6th: For the soul of Gerald R. MacD., by his son Gerry MacD.

First, please consider including In Viam Pacis in your almsgiving this Lent.

Thank you!

March 25th: Solemnity of the Annunciation of the Lord: For the soul of Robert and the soul of his mother Ruth, by Fr. Anthony

March 26th: For Terry and Gabrielle’s Family

March 27th: For the benefit of Debbie O by Suzanne

March 28th: For the benefit of Geraldine, with a special intention, by Gerry M

March 29th: For the soul of Gerry C by Rita H

March 30th: For Joanne, by Terry and Gabrielle

I would not ask if it was not needed.

I have met many persons who are excited about the In Viam Pacis project.  I sincerely appreciate these genuine responses.  They are definitely encouragements to me.

I realize that for many persons, money is tight, so not everyone can give.

That being said, well wishes will not pay the bills.

If you can, please consider becoming a monthly supporter of In Viam Pacis.  You can cancel at any time.  One-time donations are also needed.

Thank you.  God bless.




To give through email transfer or by cheque, please send me an email by the form on the “Contact Us” page on this website, asking for the proper email address or mailing address.

Matthew 10:42

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+10%3A40-42&version=RSVCE

March 17th: 2 Masses were offered in 2 different parishes

March 18th: For a special intention, by Nathalie

March 19th: For the benefit and intentions of John B., by Fr. Anthony

March 20th: For the benefit and intentions of Paul, by his  sister Jennifer

March 21st: For a special intention, by Nathalie

March 22nd: For the intentions of Mary M., by Suzanne

March 23rd: For a special intention, by Nathalie

First, please consider a donation to In Viam Pacis.  We really need some monthly supporters.  So far we have 1 supporter giving $200 per month, 1 supporter giving $100 per month, 1 supporter giving $33 per month, and 1 supporter giving $10 per month.  Monthly operating expenses are $6,000 per month.  Thankfully, we have received some one time donations of varying amounts as well, including a just in time $5,000 gift at the end of February.  So far we are running monthly deficits.  This is in a way, quite normal, just like a new business venture will often run deficits for the first while.  In a business, the entrepreneur takes the risk.  For In Viam Pacis, I am personally taking the risk, and since I truly believe in this project, I am taking full responsibility for it.  We do hope that once the retreat centre is open that much of the operating expenses will be covered through the free-will offerings of retreatants, but in the meantime, we could really use some help.  Operating expenses are the bare minimum, and any donations above that can go to building extra retreat cabins.  Renovations are moving ahead and with the milder weather everything should be ready very soon.   It’s going to really be something “very beautiful for God” and something very positive in these times when, quite frankly, we are witnessing almost everywhere a great decline in Christianity.  Indeed, we are living in times where we are seeing much of the Christian foundations of Western Civilization cracking and deteriorating, if not crumbling, before our eyes.  In Viam Pacis will be a refuge for you and/or others to get a respite from the intense spiritual and moral battles of these modern times.  Just think of all the priests, religious, and laity who will be able to get some much needed rest and restoration here at In Viam Pacis.  Who knows, maybe some persons will receive some inspirations to do some crucial things for the good of all.  Maybe God is speaking to many persons now but the noise and nonsense of our modern world is distracting some from receiving His promptings?  It seems like so many are waiting for some great Saints like of old to appear ‘save the day’ so to speak.  What if getting away for some peace and quiet will help facilitate that?  You can be a part of something simple, yet perhaps very important for our times.  I think In Viam Pacis is part of the answer.  What about you?  For more information, you can visit the “Be A Part of In Viam Pacis” page on this website, or you can ask me, Fr. Anthony Hannon, any question through the “Contact Us” page.  Please help this project get off the ground.  If you are ready to give now, you can donate using the donate button below.  If you prefer to donate through e-transfer or by cheques, send us a message through the “Contact Us” page requesting our email address or mailing address.  Thank you in advance for answering this plea!




 

This week’s Masses:

Sunday March 10th: For the supporters of In Viam Pacis

Monday March 11th: For a special intention, by Nathalie

Tuesday March 12th: For Paul, by his sister Jennifer

Wednesday March 13th: For the soul of my Dad, by Fr. Anthony

Thursday March 14th: For the soul of Gerry, by Rita H.

Friday March 15th: For a special intention, by Nathalie

Saturday March 16th: For the souls of Frank and Sonia, by their daughter Suzanne

 

New Videos have been uploaded on the YouTube channel, which is called “To Prepare His Way.”  Please visit the channel and subscribe for free.  Make sure to turn the notification bell “on” so that you will be sent an email when new videos are uploaded.  If you think someone else will benefit from any of the videos please click the “share” button on the video as well!  Here is the link to the channel:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCX_6oM4Ckxb_EERg79CbSDw

Here are the links to 2 new videos:

This first one is a reflection on last Sunday’s Mass Readings:

This second one is “The Gospel in a Nutshell” directed to school children but is really for everyone:

This Week’s Mass Intentions:

Sunday March 3rd was for Fr. Anthony’s Intentions

Monday March 4th was for the benefit of Paul by his sister Jennifer

Tuesday March 5th is for the benefit of Rebecca by her mother Nathalie

Wednesday March 6th, Ash Wednesday, is for Fr. Anthony’s Intentions

Thursday March 7th is for a special intention by Nathalie

Friday March 8th is for the soul of Gabriel Lopez by Suzanne

Saturday March 9th is for the benefit of Paul by his sister Jennifer